Women cheating, Men suffering

Gone are the days of men cheating and women suffering. And it appears that there is an increasing trend of women playing a bigger role in the unfaithful category, i.e. 3 to 5 are women out of 10 unfaithful spouses. In interesting times like this, women are more resilient as generations of ‘women suffering’ have wised up and passed down the tricks of the trade to overcome such breakups or divorces. Even among the Ya-Ya sisterhood, women share how they overcome their grief through their friends.

Unfortunately, the situation is more grim when it comes to men. We retract back into our caves and isolation, i.e. computer games or some hobbies. The lack of social interaction and wisdom from fore-fathers doesn’t help, i.e. grand-dad was probably playing the field and it was grand-mum who was taking the beating in the heart.

The result? More men are going for counselling, which is a burning a big fat hole in the pockets while women stroll their way through by committing the deed and walking away liberalized. And if women do get hurt, they get by with grandma and their Ya-Ya sisterhood, while men get stranded.

Interesting times indeed. Having said that, for all the heartbroken maidens and fellows, it’s Christmas so get into all the gatherings and trust that there will be a better guy, better girl out there that will get your heart jumping again. On the bright side, at least you are not the one walking away guilt-stricken for ruining a relationship.

Cheers,
your guide on the route to love,

thedatinglogbook

P.S: statistics are from a published article, “Her cheating heart: More wives straying”, in The Sunday Times, 18th Dec 2011. Image is courtesy of ‘Uncyclopedia’

The 3 Laws of Attraction that beats all dating advice

 

Most dating or relationship guides fail by having too many laws and rules for their readers to follow. How is it that a mating ritual that is suppose to be in our human nature be complicated by societal norms, i.e. a gentleman has to be wealthy, have status to attract the opposite, while a lady has to be prim and proper in order to qualify as wife material?

 

How about some simple laws that are funny yet easy to remember?

 

“First, you need to be good-looking, following which, you will need to have style…… Lastly, if you do not have both then you must at least have a character. If you do not have all three…. look to the wall on your left….. go hit your head against it.”

 

This is how I always tell my friends and peers when it comes to attracting the opposite sex.

 

Law #1 – Be good-looking

 

Be good-looking and do not compromise your style and character

 

First impression counts and so being good-looking is the easiest way to attract attention. Some people are well-endowed by birth or have facial features that are appealing. If you are deemed as an ugly duckling, don’t worry because ugly ducklings have the most potential to elevate their status to beautiful. Always focus on your strong features or points, i.e. use your eyes to electrify if they are beautiful or use your lips to pout if they are sexy. You want to know how powerful a feature can be? Ask any man about an average looking lady with a pair well-endowed breasts and he will focus on them if the lady knows how to project them. So build on your strong features and blend them with Law #2 and #3. Ask your friends for the blunt truth about your looks if you want to improve.

 

 

Law #2 – Have style

 

Watch how you walk, not where you walk.

 

 

We’ve noticed that some people i.e. a socialite tai-tai or a punk rocker who, albeit average looking, commands attention. It’s not the physical appearance that is attractive but the entire package that exudes in the form of charisma. Strip these people of their clothes and accessories and they are mere plain Jane or Joe. Yet why do you always take a second look at these people? Simply because of they possess style and substance. A trendy sense of clothing (not necessarily branded), that suits their body frame combined with a posture or walking manner that exudes a personality that is akin to Law #3. So if you are not good-looking, but you have style….. you will have fans or people who look up to you.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Law #3 – Possess a character

 

Nothing beats having a sunshine character too

 

 

If you are a person who is neither good-looking nor stylish, what can you do about it? Simple, have a character….. a very strong character—-with principles, values and beliefs. Look, the world is unfair. Pretty and handsome people get away by being bimbotic or flip flop in their principles, i.e. unsure which side of the fence they should take a stand on. Yet if you are ugly, with no style nor character….. there’s little reason for people to even be bothered with you. They do not even want to reason or argue with someone who doesn’t take a stand. By possessing a character, you become a challenge and people always look attractive when they are challenged. Let’s admit it, sometimes we look up to our enemies whom we deem ugly and disgusting. They are constantly pitting themselves against our principles and beliefs, yet sometimes they make common sense. Such people who appeal to rationale win the support of reasonable people too.

 

To summarize the 3 Laws and how fast can you master them? Read on…..

 

Law #1 – Being good-looking is simple, you just have to capitalize on your strong features and use them to your own advantage. It’s the easiest to achieve in a short time.

 

Law #2 – ‘Having style’ is slightly harder but you can start by emulating people whom you think have a good sense of trend and fashion. Depending on your eagerness and talent, you will give birth to your own distinctive style and people will start noticing you.

 

Law #3 – ‘Possessing a character’ is the hardest of all because this will take loads of reflection, lots of experience and lots of philosophical thinking to achieve. And so the saying goes, it takes years to build a reputation but a lifetime to build a character. There is no right or wrong in this world, but only which side of the fence you are on. Look at Adolf Hitler and Stalin, they are pretty ugly politicians but we got to admit they have one hell of a character that pisses off a hell lot people, and yet their capacity for brutality is sometimes recognize as something the average people do not have guts to do.

 

By mastering the 3 Laws of Attraction, I can assure that you will have women and men flocking to you. It’s not an overnight thing you can achieve but with constant reminders…. you will be the centre of attraction in no time. I did it, so can you.

 

Last but not least, remember http://thedatinglogbook.wordpress.com  is always here for you.

 

Your guide on the route to love,

thedatinglogbook

 

 

 

 

The Newpaper – Hard truth behind S’pore men’s performance in bed

My friend sent me this link to an article and I wonder if these women ever tested their men the way they test their perfume, moisturizer or shampoo.

 The Newpaper – Hard truth behind S’pore men’s performance in bed

Excerpt -

‘HEARD the joke that a good man is hard to find but a hard man is good to find?

Well, six in 10 Singapore women in a recent sex survey share the latter problem with the latter. They were not satisfied with their partners’ erections.’

What can women learn from these women in this article?

Lesson #1 :

Never trust the beautiful packaging on the shampoo or conditioner bottle. When a man is too good to be true….. it is likely too good to be true until you tested it…. yes, that includes the bedroom if it matters to you.

Apparently in the article it matters to these women because they realised they were short-changed when they bought into the seemingly ‘goody-two-shoes man packaging’.

Lesson #2:

‘One man’s meat is another man’s poison’

and same goes for the saying,  

‘One man’s bitch is another man’s babe.’

The same analogy can be found in the lousy movie reviews in newspapers, which some of us will find the movies very much enjoyable.

Never believe in hearsay of what people talk about a person until you get to know them personally. You never know what you are missing out if you are light on your ears. Just because someone tell you this guy looks flamboyant does not mean he is the unfaithful sort. Similarly, you will be absolutely surprise that some virtous appearing women are just as philanderous like a playboy except that they do it in a discreet manner.

So remember, ‘Reviews or comments from friends are always personal…. but it is the best to test the product or get to know the person better ourselves.’