Will My Man Make it Big? Sex is key

“James, you make me breathless and exhausted every time we do it.”

 

Lindy gasped for air as she sounded off her ecstasy, a climaxing result of endorphins unleashing through the floodgates of her tired body.

 

“Isn’t this as good as it gets?”, James panted and flexed his muscles as he holds himself up with his strong arms while keeping his position in check.

 

“But why are we not having sex!!??” Lindy lamented.

 

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Dear readers, sorry to spoil your reading pleasure but James and Lindy are just doing push-ups to the stage of exhaustion in preparation for his upcoming rock climbing tournament.

 

So what does push-ups have to do with the topic, ‘Will My Man Make it Big?’ This article is a follow-up of “The Best Investment a Woman can Get”.

 

Success is Power

 

 Before thedatinglogbook begins, let us pose to ourselves some questions,

 

“Why are some men more capable than others? E.g. Men who build empires, businesses, become managers or leaders?”

 

“Why are there stronger men, who are great in sports or an ace in a trade or skill?”

 

So what sets apart one successful man from another?

 

To understand the relevance, we just have to think of how men think. Men are much simpler creatures because of the intensity and focus on the things that they do, such as chasing money in the form of business, gambling, investing or exercising in the form of sports and finally not forgetting, chasing after girls in exchange for the feeling of winning or the plain vanilla human nature of sex. Women on the other hand, think about just every single thing that both matters and matters not.

 

Men are hunters by nature, which is evident in the things they accomplish by history. Men love the chase, expending energy to something fruitful. This expense of energy can be to invent a machine, modify his car to achieve a faster speed, score a night with women or score a goal in soccer. However, it is important to know that not all men are good hunters. Some have a stronger urge, a bigger thirst to quench than others who are just contented to make do day by day.

 

The Basic Attribute of a Successful Man

 

‘Sexual energy’ or strong sex drive. I see dumbfounded readers who find this a surprise. A lot of people are expecting political right answers or model answers, i.e. he must be a thinker, he must be enterprising, he must be hardworking. My apologies but these answers are very surface and do not dive into the depth of understanding human psychology and men’s fundamental nature of hunting.

 

If you have a man who just wants to make love to you every single day and moment. Congratulations, you found a man who has the potential to succeed.

 

“My husband or boyfriend is demanding sex from me everyday but he is such a slob! Not hardworking or enterprising at all. How is it possible for sexual energy to be the basic attribute of a successful man!?”

 

Some of you may react violently in the notion of sexual energy being the base of success. Note, I mentioned, ‘potential to succeed.’ Sexual energy means the potential to succeed. Read on to understand another key criterion for success.

 

The Core Attribute of a Successful Man

 

‘Channelling’. Just like a waterfall or the strong wind in the air. Water and wind have lots of potential energy but they are not made useful and such power can wield devastating damages, e.g. like water eroding the hard rocks overtime or like the typhoon blowing and uprooting trees in its path.

 

Men harness such energy by creating windmills, or water wheels, channelling the energy to another place that contributes to a bigger purpose such as providing electricity to light up a town.

 

Success is not without a purpose and energy is wasted without channelling. Men who will make it big, understands the importance of channelling and visualizing. Edison failed thousands of times before getting the first light bulb that eliminated darkness. He channelled his energy into passionate nights of research instead of torrid nights of sexual escapades.

 

Men, who fail to channel sexual energy into something meaningful, become despondent and prone to addiction, such as sex or perhaps excessive gambling. Every time, he climaxes through sexual intercourse or wins a hand on the gambling table, this man receives an emotional release similar to achieving a goal. However when a man does not have a bigger picture or goal in his mind, his mind will constantly seek such repetitive simple but attainable pleasures that compounds into a feeling of achievement. More often than not, such habits impede a man’s success in other more meaningful things.

 

What can a woman do to make his man a success?

 

Look at James and Lindy, James’ focus is on winning the rock-climbing tournament but Lindy is feeling neglected in the bedroom.

 

 

Love and guidance is key

It is an emotional trade-off for women to have goal-oriented boyfriends or husbands because in exchange for their men’s success, they decide to play a supporting role and not demand massive attention from their men.

 

 In a way, if your man is active in the bedroom and he’s not making any headway in the career department, it is not entirely his fault.

 

Only the very strong men who know what they want will be able to channel their sexual energies to purposes. However, some men though sexually active are at a lost and thus for a woman who wants her man to make it big should help by finding a purpose for him and guide him to reaching his potential. The following Chinese saying bears some truth in shedding light on this aspect,

 

“先成家，后立业”

 

The English translation is ‘a family is form first before a career is given birth to’.

 

It is appalling to see some men being criticized by their wives and girlfriends for not improving themselves, especially when they love their women whole heartedly and put their focus, goal and objectives in making them happy, spending time and effort on them.

 

Fortunately, we can see positive examples, in communities or churches whereby the woman understands the supporting role of a wife and supports her husband in his endeavours.

 

 

In short, the key lesson here is ‘Channelling sexual energies’. If your man does not have a mind of his own in pursuing success then it is up to you to support and shape his destiny. Every man has the potential to achieve greatness but remember, it is his love for you that made him paused in his footsteps to success.

 

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