I was browsing through Strait Times Discussion Board and read this article, ‘Pretty women likely to cheat’. Many of the forum participants pointed out that a research like this is a waste of funds and it does not take a scientist to figure out that pretty woman and handsome men are more likely to cheat.
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Organizational behavior is human nature
One of the readers asked the question, “Why more Singaporeans are remaining single?” and looked at this growing trend with great concern. Shouldn’t funds be invested on addressing societal problems instead of redundant research information that is actually common sense like the one right above, ‘Pretty women likely to cheat.’?
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It is human’s nature to run away from problems and leave it to somebody else to clean the mess. Cost cutting aside, Large corporations outsource their call centre business, because it is always complains and large businesses outsource their IT, because it is always problems and downtime.
There is no doubt that funds should be directed to social studies but like many large organizations these days, the Singapore government has decided to outsource this problem to the private sector, which sees the mini boom for professional dating companies and Social Development Unit, SDU taking a backseat to become a regulating body.
How successful are the professional dating companies in Singapore that has since blossomed? Perhaps research funds can be plough into this area and people can be better informed to decide if it made sense for the white-collar Singaporean to spend thousands of dollars to get a date?
Premeditated dating versus spontaneity
Some people like it the way how Bill Gates chooses his wife in a methodical manner within Microsoft. However, it is rather sad to see people resort to professional help when it comes to making new friends and getting to know people who share common interests.
Imagine the scenario of a couple on a blind date fixed by the dating agency,
“I think we are here because we share similar interests. I love to read during my free time.” the lady in office attire replied a premeditated or prefabricated fashion.
‘Yes, I love to read too.’ the guy replied in a most predictable fashion to please the lady.
The scenario as described above sounds staged. It is premeditated, planned out, and then followed up with phony spontaneity, i.e. playing along with his/her preference because both the dates have an idea how they will be matched up before-hand from the agency. This method works for war, businesses, where intelligence counts but in dating? Somehow, this just does not sound very romantic.
Dating should be spontaneous
Now imagine another scenario, you are a fan of the author J.K Rowling’s Harry Potter series. The latest book is being launched and you are there in the queue waiting to grab a copy of it from the bookshelves of Borders in Orchard Road. As the queue snakes out of the main entrance of the bookstore amidst the excited children who were screaming and chattering away their anticipation, you saw an attractive man who caught your eye. You stepped up and strike with a conversation by saying, ‘the last time I spend a long time queuing was attending Jason Miraz’s pop concert last month.’
Now that the ball is served to his court, your anticipation has shifted from buying your book to finding out if this man is interested in J.K Rowling’s book, Jason Miraz and most important of all, getting to know you at this very moment.
And for the luckier women, this attractive man could instead be hitting on you first and you are the one who will decide whether to hit the ball back into his court. Singaporean women are generally lost when it comes to strangers hitting on them. Shyness could be the reason but perhaps it is old mum’s myth, “Don’t talk to strangers, they will kidnap you,” giving Singaporean men the impression that their fellow female compatriots are unfriendly prudes.
Find a soccer player and you get the rest of the team too.
Men of a pattern flirt together
Nevertheless, the outcome of the conversation can be tremendous. He could potentially be the One or he could become a great friend who shares the same interests as you. And you know what the best part is? Most likely, he has friends who are just like him because birds of a feather flock together. Although, their approach to women may differ, men who are buddies share a certain degree of similar values or interests.
Why not have more choices, more options with an expanded social circle that you are definitely interested in? I find it hilarious that people will spend money to buy a lottery ticket for the hope of striking rich and not bother responding to someone who can potentially lead them to their future mate when it does not even cost a single cent.
Make the best out of every situation
‘Make the best out of every situation. Don’t let fate make a sport out of you because it tires you out.’
The above book shopping scenario is spontaneous, out of the blue, unexpected and is completely in-line with the notions of romantic love. Now that spontaneity has struck a chord on you, you can plan whatever things you have in mind in any pre-meditated fashion that you want to know. This sequence is definitely much more appealing than the former.
Similarly, if you are into beach and water activities just go to the beach or attend a water sport event. The next time you hesitate to respond to a stranger’s question or comment, just remind yourself that, ‘It’s the whole idea of ushering spontaneity that makes making new friends and knowing potential mates fun’. Dating is a fun experience and not a fixed process, so use spontaneity combined with your interests to make a splashing a good time with others.
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