I came across a post on Asiaone’s forum, which shares a Singaporean man’s view on Singaporean women’s double standards when it comes to foreign Caucasian men and Singaporean men. Interestingly put across, eliciting an observed behavior of some Singaporean women but perhaps it can be expressed less bluntly for people’s reflection.
Here’s an excerpt of what Bohliao posted in the forum,
“I read alot, travel alot and talk alot too. I have extensive and expansive knowledge of things. From psychology to biology, politics to finance, sports to arts, theology to sociology etc. I know hell lot. Does that qualify me as knowlegdeable to Singapore girls? Are Singapore girls interested in what I know? Are they impressed with what I know? The answer is a big NO.
The problem with most Singapore girls is Pinkleton Syndrome. When an ang moh and local says the same thing it is perceived differently by them.
I have a good friend (Chinese) who once went out with a group of friends comprising of local girls and some ang moh guys. When the ang mohs talked ‘dirty’ with the local girls, the local girls remarked that “you guys are so open with sex” and they were impressed. My good friend was really pi**ed when he heard what the girls said. He remarked sarcastically, “It’s not that we Singapore men are not open with sex because when we talk about sex you girls will say we are dirty minded and low class. When ang moh say the same thing you say they are liberal.” There’s a five full minutes of silence and the evening passed quietly with the girls leaving at 10pm on a Friday night.
Needless to say my friend has not been invited to any of their outings since that faithful day.”
For the full post, please click the link below.
Source: http://forums.asiaone.com/showthread.php?t=12959&page=31
Is this only a Singaporean Women and Caucasian issue? Could it be a race issue?
Look, it’s not only Singaporean Women per se that will “bow” to Caucasian men. In fact, i think there’s a tendency for any non-whites to feel more inferior to the Whites.
I just recently had a conversation with a Australian woman who was visiting S’pore. She said, she was well aware of the race issue, that everybody think that whites are more superior than the rest, hence she and her family try their best to treat people fairly. however, this is what she said (not-word-for-word, but the gist is there). “We tried not to give tips or give extra for the service given, but it is so difficult. when they (Asians) see that we are Westerners, they will be Extremely nice and polite to us that we just feel we have to tip them”.
So back to the “talk dirty” scenario. What if the tables are turned and now it is an Caucasian lady talking dirty to a bunch of local guys? They will probably think the Caucasians are more “open” too right? If it is a local Singaporean girl? Say, as a guy, what would you think?
You have a valid point on the perceived difference in class.
As for your last question……
I think most Asian men who are more conservative will think….”no way is this woman going to be my wife.”
To summarize,
In the first scenario…. Asian women thinks Caucasian are more liberal and Asian men lewd, i.e. pool of women for Asian men shrinks.
Now, in the second scenario…. Asian woman is too liberal for Asian men’s stomachs, i.e. the pool of women for Asian men shrinks again.
Looks pretty ugly.