I agree with some of the posts here that state the high expectations of Singaporean women. Education has in a way enable the independence of women and make them re-think the notion of happiness for themselves. There are more Singaporeans remaining single? We are not the only ones. Singaporean men are losing their female counterparts to Ang Mohs…. but there is another group of people losing their women to us too.
This article might be of interest,
Why More Singaporeans are Remaining Single?
Who is the apple of your eye?
Singaporean women are apples
I was talking to a friend who married his wife from China but studied in one of the two Singapore universities. She’s a 1st class honours in her course while my friend just did with a pass. He was telling me the merits of his wife, i.e. intelligent, feminine, gentle and thoughtful. A definite far-cry from most Singaporean women in the opinion of Singaporean men.
They paused for a while thinking for an answer. One replied, “We are more educated.” The other one followed suit and replied the same way too.
Lots of thoughts ran through my mind and I was trying to piece the whole picture together. Then came the Apples Analogy, which was given birth to after a coffee talk with my married male friend…..
Picture this, Singaporean women are apples who compare themselves with rotten apples, the lowly educated foreign women who gets into trouble frequently sensationalized by the media, i.e. murder, breaking up families and etc….
I spoke to a few Singaporean men and they all agreed that Singaporean women should compare themselves to organic apples instead, i.e. foreign women who are highly educated, armed with degrees yet possess the feminine values of playing the role and responsibilities of a supporting wife.
My married male friend was even criticised by a female relative for marrying a potential gold digger, a typical stereo-typing of China Chinese women who are family breakers, money grabbers. My friend’s mum chided back the female relative saying that, ‘For your information, my China Chinese daughter-in-law is 1st class honours and her family in China is definitely more wealthier and more established than us.’
The above example and observation certainly gives light to how myopic or narrow-minded Singaporeans can get. 100 years ago, we Singaporean Chinese were also immigrants and it is saddening that some Singaporeans still hold a very discriminating look to foreigners who were just like their parents or grandparents when they first came to Singapore in the past.
Every woman in this world is beautiful. Singaporean women are especially beautiful to Singaporean men because they both share the same heritage and upbringing environment.
This is something worth reflecting upon. If you are a Singaporean woman, and you feel what I wrote made some sense. Perhaps, this article from the datinglogbook might be of interest to you.
The Best Investment a Woman Can Get
Well said! It’s not nationality that makes a woman beautiful or special. Its her character. I also agree with you, that we should not be so quick to stereotype people based on their nationality,particularlynon-Caucasian nationalities.
When it comes to marriage though, not many people can accept that it’s character and personality that matters.There was a recent study on how Singaporean men go for looks and Singaporean women go for wealth and status. While it’s not true of all Singaporeans, it is quite representative of the majority. It’s also a fact that men of all nationalities tend to favour attractive women.
Perhaps a gripe that Singaporean women might have is that Singaporean men tend to have a checklist of what is defined as beautiful and what is not. Just look at the FHM Singapore covers. The local cover girls tend to be skinny, with long straight hair and have huge doe eyes with false eyelashes on. Maybe its not the men who like it but the media who decides the definition of beauty?
Whatever it is, we cannot deny that the beginning of any relationship stems from attraction and usually, males tend to value physical attractiveness more than females. Us females can only hope that men are able to accept a diversified range of beauty ideals.
Be it men or women, we crave for new exciting things and that includes appearances of the opposite sex. Fashion is always re-inventing itself as it is what clothe us while enticing our visual senses.
It is the innate of women to always chase the fashion because men always chase the looks. We wouldn’t want our partners to always look the same, but instead the original essence with a tinge of ingenuity creativity. Example, I always like my steak with mushroom or black pepper sauce…. but the occasional surprising cranberry or barbecue sauce will re-ignite how I view my steak. This is exactly the same as how we view our female partners when she wears something different, does her eyelashes and cat-eye makeup for a special dinner event, thus offering a skip in the heart and once again converting us, to raging schoolboys with heightened hormones.