The 3 Laws of Attraction that beats all dating advice

 

Most dating or relationship guides fail by having too many laws and rules for their readers to follow. How is it that a mating ritual that is suppose to be in our human nature be complicated by societal norms, i.e. a gentleman has to be wealthy, have status to attract the opposite, while a lady has to be prim and proper in order to qualify as wife material?

 

How about some simple laws that are funny yet easy to remember?

 

“First, you need to be good-looking, following which, you will need to have style…… Lastly, if you do not have both then you must at least have a character. If you do not have all three…. look to the wall on your left….. go hit your head against it.”

 

This is how I always tell my friends and peers when it comes to attracting the opposite sex.

 

Law #1 – Be good-looking

 

Be good-looking and do not compromise your style and character

 

First impression counts and so being good-looking is the easiest way to attract attention. Some people are well-endowed by birth or have facial features that are appealing. If you are deemed as an ugly duckling, don’t worry because ugly ducklings have the most potential to elevate their status to beautiful. Always focus on your strong features or points, i.e. use your eyes to electrify if they are beautiful or use your lips to pout if they are sexy. You want to know how powerful a feature can be? Ask any man about an average looking lady with a pair well-endowed breasts and he will focus on them if the lady knows how to project them. So build on your strong features and blend them with Law #2 and #3. Ask your friends for the blunt truth about your looks if you want to improve.

 

 

Law #2 – Have style

 

Watch how you walk, not where you walk.

 

 

We’ve noticed that some people i.e. a socialite tai-tai or a punk rocker who, albeit average looking, commands attention. It’s not the physical appearance that is attractive but the entire package that exudes in the form of charisma. Strip these people of their clothes and accessories and they are mere plain Jane or Joe. Yet why do you always take a second look at these people? Simply because of they possess style and substance. A trendy sense of clothing (not necessarily branded), that suits their body frame combined with a posture or walking manner that exudes a personality that is akin to Law #3. So if you are not good-looking, but you have style….. you will have fans or people who look up to you.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Law #3 – Possess a character

 

Nothing beats having a sunshine character too

 

 

If you are a person who is neither good-looking nor stylish, what can you do about it? Simple, have a character….. a very strong character—-with principles, values and beliefs. Look, the world is unfair. Pretty and handsome people get away by being bimbotic or flip flop in their principles, i.e. unsure which side of the fence they should take a stand on. Yet if you are ugly, with no style nor character….. there’s little reason for people to even be bothered with you. They do not even want to reason or argue with someone who doesn’t take a stand. By possessing a character, you become a challenge and people always look attractive when they are challenged. Let’s admit it, sometimes we look up to our enemies whom we deem ugly and disgusting. They are constantly pitting themselves against our principles and beliefs, yet sometimes they make common sense. Such people who appeal to rationale win the support of reasonable people too.

 

To summarize the 3 Laws and how fast can you master them? Read on…..

 

Law #1 – Being good-looking is simple, you just have to capitalize on your strong features and use them to your own advantage. It’s the easiest to achieve in a short time.

 

Law #2 – ‘Having style’ is slightly harder but you can start by emulating people whom you think have a good sense of trend and fashion. Depending on your eagerness and talent, you will give birth to your own distinctive style and people will start noticing you.

 

Law #3 – ‘Possessing a character’ is the hardest of all because this will take loads of reflection, lots of experience and lots of philosophical thinking to achieve. And so the saying goes, it takes years to build a reputation but a lifetime to build a character. There is no right or wrong in this world, but only which side of the fence you are on. Look at Adolf Hitler and Stalin, they are pretty ugly politicians but we got to admit they have one hell of a character that pisses off a hell lot people, and yet their capacity for brutality is sometimes recognize as something the average people do not have guts to do.

 

By mastering the 3 Laws of Attraction, I can assure that you will have women and men flocking to you. It’s not an overnight thing you can achieve but with constant reminders…. you will be the centre of attraction in no time. I did it, so can you.

 

Last but not least, remember http://thedatinglogbook.wordpress.com  is always here for you.

 

Your guide on the route to love,

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Why a Third Party is Good for Your Relationship

 “Jane, how long have we known each other?” Samuel asked with his eyes gazing into the vast sea right before him.

The breeze gently caresses Jane’s cheeks and sent strands of her long hair dancing to the rhythm of the sea.

“Three years and four months to be exact.” Jane replied catching a glance of Samuel before turning her head to face the sea right before them.

A stand-off

 

The windy coast of the eastern shore did not seem to jostle the mental stillness surrounding the both of them. The feeling was mutual, an air of lost meaning despite the memories of fun and laughter they had shared.

 

Jane still remembered how he caught her eye with his bright smile and that twinkle in the eye when he picked her books up in Borders.

“Psychology? This is something that I have no idea about as I always look at things in its most simplified manner.” Samuel commented as he handed the books back to her.

Jane was still mesmerized and blurted, “Yes, boring subject of my interest.”

Then it ran through Jane’s mind, “What contradiction am I muttering?  Boring subject of interest!?”

“I don’t know much about psychology but I’m good with technology stuff though.”

Samuel smiled and the rest was history with 3 years of relationship in the making thereafter, leading them to where they are now.

It appears the attraction has fizzled out after these few years and little is there in common to hold them together.

Or perhaps a third party is involved, complicating the things between the both of them.

Welcome to http://thedatinglogbook.wordpress.com , a blog that empowers you in the affairs of the heart, simply because ‘You are worth it.’

Ever wondered why relationships fail after a period of time? And has it ever come across to you why they failed?

The common reason given is incompatibility. But is it really so?

Perhaps we should take a closer look and get a better understanding of ourselves.

There are three stages of a relationship,

1. Lust – Physical attraction
2. Attraction – A deep lasting impression
3. Attachment – An emotional belonging to each other built on common ground or interest
    

Lust – Physical attraction that bowls you over and have you sexually attracted to him/her for that mere few weeks to few months.

Attraction – A deep lasting impression that carves itself into your mind that you cannot shake away, which lasts from a year to two and a half years.

Attachment – An emotional belonging to him/her that has grown its roots and stems in entanglement that leaves an awful collateral destruction should it be uprooted, i.e. breaking up with him or divorcing him results in an emotional void that is painful and made worse with a lost in common friends or extended family relationships. This attachment brings the relationship beyond a few years.

Now let us revisit Jane and Samuel’s 3 year relationship that is on the rocks. The lust came on and there was a deep lasting impression, which means they survived the first two stages of a relationship. However, they were not able to bring it to the next level either in time or because of a missing common ground of interest.

In case you are betting on the notion that it must have been a third party who interfered in their relationship, you are going to be surprised because it is not so. In fact, it is the lack of a third party in their relationship that crumbles everything to naught.

Had Samuel and Jane brought their relationship to the next level during the ‘Attraction’ stage, the common ground or the third party that will hold them together will be a marriage and a goal to building a family. Marriage is in many ways strong attachment but is slowly eroding with liberal values.

Drawing the analogy of a relationship using a diagram, this is how it will look like for a couple.

A single weak line

The above simple line is a structurally weak and can snap like a chopstick or twig.

Now compare this simple line to a love triangle below, which forms a close loop structure that serves to reinforce each entity within the equilateral triangular structure that is stronger and complete.

A strong triangle with equal lengths, equal efforts on all sides.

A relationship form on the basis of two persons is weak but is any 3^rd party good for the relationship?

For all you know, a triangle can be lope-sided too.

A precarious lope-sided triangle

An obsession with a career or with another person can be a triangle but fundamentally a weak one that will snap in time to come.

Remember the 80/20 rule applies in everything, same goes for a relationship. Your partner will always fulfil 80% of your needs and wants but it is always the 20% that you want to make your life complete. Some people look for an affair, some people focus on their careers and before they realise it, the 20% affair or career becomes the 80% of their life and thus put their relationship with their spouse at stake.

This is what The Dating Logbook has for you today so give some thoughts to the 20%, which completes you. This 20% may be your weakest link in your life for all you know.

For those who have just snapped a chopstick or broken a triangle, here’s ‘Dealing with Break-ups’, an article that will put you back on track.

Last but not least, remember http://thedatinglogbook.wordpress.com  is always here for you.

 

Your guide on the route to love,

thedatinglogbook