He’s Just Not That Into You

My lovely ladies, thedatinglogbook had a week of visiting and festive fun so it’s time to take a little breather from writing. The Dating Logbook will not leave you in the lurch so here’s something to look forward to.

In the name of the journey of discovering the opposite sex, thedatinglogbook shares with you an upcoming movie, worthy of your gossiping interest.

‘He’s Just Not That Into You’  – The Movie

He's Just Not That Into You - The Movie

This is a movie based on the scribs of  ‘Sex and the City’, Greg Behrandt and Liz Tuccilo.

For those wondering what is the content like, here’s one short excerpt for women who are still wondering why he isn’t reacting to you.

“Dear Greg,

I’m so disappointed. I have this friend that I’ve known platonically for about ten years. He lives in a different city and recently he was in town for work, so we met for dinner. All of a sudden it felt like we were on a date. He was completely flirting with me. He even said to me, as he was checking me out, “So, what, you’re working the whole ‘model thing’ now?” (That’s flirting, right?) We both agreed that we should get together again soon. Well, Greg, I’m disappointed because it’s been two weeks and he hasn’t called me. Can I call him? He might be nervous about turning the friendship into romance. Can’t I give him a nudge now? Isn’t that what friends are for?

Jodi

Dear Friendly Girl,

Two weeks is two weeks, except when it’s ten years and two weeks. That’s how long ago he decided whether or not he could date a model or a girl who looks like one. Can you be a pal and give him a nudge? Nudge away, friendster — but watch how fast that nudge doesn’t get a return phone call. And if your dinner/date did feel different to him, it’s been two weeks and he’s had time to think about it and decide he’s just not that into you. Here’s the truth: Guys don’t mind messing up a friendship if it could lead to sex, whether it be a “(expletive) buddy” situation or a meaningful romance. Go find someone that lives in your zip code who will be rocked to the core by your deep conversation and model looks.

I hate to tell you, but that whole “I don’t want to ruin the friendship” excuse is a racket. It works so well because it seems so wise. Sex could mess up a friendship. Unfortunately, in the entire history of mankind, that excuse has never ever been used by someone who actually means it. If we’re really excited about someone, we can’t stop ourselves — we want more. If we’re friends with someone and attracted to them, we’re going to want to take it further. And please, don’t tell me he’s just “scared.” The only thing he’s scared of — and I say this with a lot of love — is how not attracted to you he is. “

 

For some pictures and other info about ‘He’s Just Not That Into You’, check out these links,

 Commentary – ‘So He’s Just Not That Into You’

 Excerpt from ‘He’s Just Not That Into You’

The Dating Logbook says,

‘Keep the anticipation brewing, keep the gentle wind blowing, and definitely it will be mind blowing.’

 

With lots of romance and ideas,

thedatinglogbook.

The Apples Analogy of Singaporean Women

This post is an extract from my reply to the topic on AsiaOne forum,  ‘Singaporean girls, hot or not?’ . 

 

Singaporean men are not the only ones losing their women
I agree with some of the posts here that state the high expectations of Singaporean women. Education has in a way enable the independence of women and make them re-think the notion of happiness for themselves. There are more Singaporeans remaining single? We are not the only ones. Singaporean men are losing their female counterparts to Ang Mohs…. but there is another group of people losing their women to us too.

This article might be of interest,

Why More Singaporeans are Remaining Single?

 

Who is the apple of your eye?

Singaporean women are apples
I was talking to a friend who married his wife from China but studied in one of the two Singapore universities. She’s a 1st class honours in her course while my friend just did with a pass. He was telling me the merits of his wife, i.e. intelligent, feminine, gentle and thoughtful. A definite far-cry from most Singaporean women in the opinion of Singaporean men.

I spoke to another two female friends and asked them what do you think you (Singaporean women) have over the foreign brides and foreign women that Singaporean men are increasingly marrying and showing interest in?

They paused for a while thinking for an answer. One replied, “We are more educated.” The other one followed suit and replied the same way too.

Lots of thoughts ran through my mind and I was trying to piece the whole picture together. Then came the Apples Analogy, which was given birth to after a coffee talk with my married male friend…..

Picture this, Singaporean women are apples who compare themselves with rotten apples, the lowly educated foreign women who gets into trouble frequently sensationalized by the media, i.e. murder, breaking up families and etc….

I spoke to a few Singaporean men and they all agreed that Singaporean women should compare themselves to organic apples instead, i.e. foreign women who are highly educated, armed with degrees yet possess the feminine values of playing the role and responsibilities of a supporting wife.

My married male friend was even criticised by a female relative for marrying a potential gold digger, a typical stereo-typing of China Chinese women who are family breakers, money grabbers. My friend’s mum chided back the female relative saying that, ‘For your information, my China Chinese daughter-in-law is 1st class honours and her family in China is definitely more wealthier and more established than us.’

The above example and observation certainly gives light to how myopic or narrow-minded Singaporeans can get. 100 years ago, we Singaporean Chinese were also immigrants and it is saddening that some Singaporeans still hold a very discriminating look to foreigners who were just like their parents or grandparents when they first came to Singapore in the past.

Every woman in this world is beautiful. Singaporean women are especially beautiful to Singaporean men because they both share the same heritage and upbringing environment.

This is something worth reflecting upon. If you are a Singaporean woman, and you feel what I wrote made some sense. Perhaps, this article from the datinglogbook might be of interest to you.

The Best Investment a Woman Can Get

 

Stay tuned, I have been hearing women’s comments about Singaporean men’s dressing and their sloppiness. I will be touching on this topic in the near future.

 

‘The Dating Logbook’  or thedatinglogbook